With only 15 weeks left until we meet this next little stud, I am getting more and more anxious about having 2 kids under 2 years of age. I know we will survive and the most difficult days will be a blip in time (or a blur rather), but I have NO IDEA how I am going to manage no family and
very few friends less than 3 hours away (ie. Portland). Seriously. There are also things that I hadn't counted on struggling with the 2nd pregnancy. Things like:
• The difficulty of carrying around one child/baby while pregnant with another. Given that he just truly started walking consistently 3 1/2 months ago, he is still carried around quite a bit as he learns to navigate safely.
• Changing diapers while dealing with morning sickness. Awful.
• Total exhaustion all the time. I don't know how moms cut caffeine out entirely with a toddler running around - it's my saving grace!
I know that after this baby is born I will basically be trapped at home all day, every day. Someone is always going to be sleeping, but I am going to try to have baby boy #2 sleeping on the go so Jake & I can get out and enjoy some fresh air. I also know I am going to be so tired, it's going to be hard to stay on top of it all and I know this will be a struggle for the perfectionist in me - but I have to let it go. Not so sure how I will get both kids in and out of the car, let alone do a big grocery shopping trip as the boys are likely going to take up the entire cart - but I am so blessed to have married an amazing man & partner that I know will help me get thru with with lots of laughs... and lots of wine.
Some advice I have read & received:
• Accept help whenever anyone offers. If anyone offers any help at all from making meals to babysitting to picking up a few things from the grocery store, take them up on it. This is hard for me to do, but I am committed to doing so! I really need it.
• Find some “me” time. This is a must for me I know it. I cannot be a good mother if I don’t take care of myself. I am looking into gym memberships vs. Stroller Strides so I can put the kids in the childcare, while I workout & shower ALONE in that 2 hour window of time. And, if I am having a bad day, I can skip the workout, grab a magazine and flip thru it while sitting in the locker room.
• Enjoy every small moment you can. It's going to go fast enough as it is, so do try to enjoy all the little moments.
• Join a moms group before the second one arrives. This will provide a chance to meet neighborhood moms and possibly make new friends. Maybe I'll even find other area moms with children the same age and I can set-up play dates. I am desperately trying to make new friends. And as Nick jokes I am the 'neighborhood stalker'. I am always peeking outside the windows to see who is out and about, socializing with who, and most importantly who has young children. I am the creep that now will friend you on Facebook or get your number for a play date if you seem 'normal'. Jake, Lyla and I go for walks daily (sometimes twice daily) to potentially run into someone I saw outside, or strike up conversation. Really doesn't feel that different from college when the girls and I would get all dolled up to 'study' at the library (aka. run into the crush of the week). :)
However, all this said, we count our blessings every single day that we are fortunate enough to have each other, 1 healthy child and another on the way. Just last week I was reminded of how beautiful each day of our life truly is. And, I know that once our boys are grown, we are going to long for these days all over again (....and hopefully in the coming weeks, all my stalking will pay off and I will have a new friend to write about :))